They Will Fill in the Blanks

Have you ever met someone or been with someone and thought, "I just don't know about this person" or "I wonder if they are mad, sad, happy"? People rely a great deal on the nonverbal messages we send. Nonverbal messages include your facial expressions and your body language. If we do not communicate with words about who we are or what we are thinking, others will fill in the blanks and come up with their own ideas.

Tip of the day: Be sure that your nonverbal language is communicating an accurate message of what you intend for others to receive. Asking friends about the nonverbal messages you send is a great way to see how others see you.

I know you all have great tips as well. Feel free to share those in the "comments" section of this blog.

Happy Monday!

Take Care of it the Night Before

Have you ever filled up your gas tank and ended up with gasoline on your hands, or maybe even your clothes?

Tip for today- Fill up your gas tank at the end of the day rather than in the morning before you go to work or school. Then if some gas should splash on your hands or clothes, you will not have to smell it all day.

Your peers and coworkers will greatly appreciated your advanced planning as well.

Handy

As you job interview, look for a place to live or start a project you may find you are collecting lots of business cards. These cards are good references for peoples' names and contact numbers, but often get scattered or lost if they are not organized.

Tip #7- Go to your local office supply store and pick up a package of business card holders. (Some people use the plastic sleeves that hold sports cards for collections.) Each sleeve will hold 20 cards that can each be quickly reviewed when you are looking for one.

Tip #7-A- You might want to use a separate sleeve for job related cards and another for fun projects or a hobby.

By keeping the business card sleeves and other papers related to the same purpose in a separate loose leaf notebook you will save lots of time and feel much more in control.

Other's Accomplishments

Remember when you accomplished something that made you feel very proud? You felt all good inside and very confident and may have wanted to share it with the world? You probably also remember those people who got excited with you and shared in your joy. You might even be able to name them years later and remember where you were when they were excited with/for you.

Tip 6- Whenever you become aware of something that someone else has done, let them know how happy, excited and/or proud you are for them. You can do this by telling them, sending a note, or maybe even a little gift. You might also pass on their accomplishment to someone else who will be excited as well.

You will feel much better yourself when you look past yourself, and remember that the world really is not just about you! (You are a very important part of it though.)

What a Smart Lady

She came out of no where. A sheepish looking woman who might not have been noticed on the street, until.......she sang before England and the world. I am referring, of course, to Susan Boyles. All of a sudden her world was turned upside down and things apparently became overwhelming. She did the right thing.....she sought help.

Tip #5- When things in your world become overwhelming and you are not able to handle your normal responsibilities, seek the help of a trusted friend or professional in the mental health field to help you deal in a healthy way with those things that are bothering you.

If you don't know how to find someone and you live in the U.S. try calling 211. Most communities have an information and referral service that is accessed by calling 211. They can inform you of various agencies and professionals who may be located close to you who you can call.

That is a smart decision!

Their Own Way

Have you ever worked on a project, planned a party or decided how to approach a problem with someone else and felt like the way they were doing it was just not how you thought it should be done?

I have recently talked with several people who feel the way their friends are approaching medical decisions is just not right because that is not the way they would do it. They have their own opinions about how things should be done.

So, Tip #4-When you feel someone is not doing something the right way or the way you would do it, remember what my good friend Frances says, "Everyone has to get there their own way."

Never Too Late

This time of year seems incredibly busy. But it is never too late to send a "thank you" note to someone who has done something nice for you. Graduation is just around the corner for many and Memorial Day has just past. Many times "thank you" notes are expected, for instance when someone gives you a gift. However, expected or not, they are always appreciated.

Tip #3- Keep several blank note cards in your back pack, purse or car with some stamps so that you can quickly send a note to someone as you think about them. Your note may "make their day"!!