So Much Wasted Energy

I listened to the news this morning about two teens who attacked a stroke victim in a wheel chair. The more I think about this situation, the madder I get. Bullies always take their aggression out on someone so much weaker than themselves?

So, Tip #2
It takes way more energy to frown and be aggressive toward others than it does to smile and be kind. (Besides that-being kind gets you much further down the road to independence!!)

It is also a fun challenge to be overly kind to the fussy or irritated grocery clerk or sales clerk, or restaurant server. It will really throw them off!

Have a great day!

Three and one half year birth

About three and one half years ago I was inspired to take on a project I had never thought I would do. I was inspired by a teen we were mentoring at a local residential center for youth. As she asked a number of questions about how to open a bank account, how to rent an apartment, and how to look for a job, I realized she would benefit from a book about these issues.

I browsed our local book store and realized that there was no one book containing all of the information she was asking about. When I expressed my frustration to my husband about not finding a book containing the information I was seeking, he said, "Well, write one!". So I did!!

And today I received the first printed copy! And the book is now available through Amazon.com!!

So I have decided to include some of the tips from the book, On Your Own-Navigating the Road to Independence, in this blog.

Tip #1- When setting up a budget, set aside 10% of your paycheck or income for any unforeseen emergencies. Life is full of unexpected expenses so you want to be prepared to deal with these.

Just a few words

Just as I was starting this blog I received an email from an adult student telling me that a few words I had said in a casual conversation with her kept her from making a big mistake. I vaguely remember the conversation. It occurred to me that many times we say things in passing or informally that others take very seriously even though we may not remember saying them.

As individuals start on their road to independence and demonstrate more maturity, people begin to place more value in their comments and opinions. The responsibility for choosing words carefully and explaining yourself fully becomes much more important as one travels down the road to independence.

Why not share?

After years of teaching and working with teenagers and young adults I thought it might be fun and helpful to share some of the tips I have learned to help people successfully gain independence. I know there are many tips and techniques others have learned as well. Why not share these? Three important things to do to get started are create a budget, write a resume and save for emergencies.